What could go wrong with a five-year relationship, a sizable fortune, and a fiancé full of high expectations? Welcome to the dramatic story of “My money, not yours,” where conflict between love and money arises.
After a heated argument with her fiancé, our protagonist, a 32-year-old lady known as the Original Poster (OP), went to Reddit’s virtual court for a reality check. People, be ready for a rollercoaster ride.
The recent engagement of OP to her 35-year-old partner prompted her to start organizing their May 2025 wedding. However, a bittersweet inheritance was the curveball life tossed at me.
Happiest, shortest conclusion ever? Unfortunately, the answer is yes. Because Grandma and Grandpa were such achievers, OP’s grandma passed away and left her with a considerable inheritance. Then, OP’s crucial moment arrived: telling her fiancé the news. It turned out that he had some quite interesting preparations.
“After telling him, he went from zero to one hundred more quickly than my microwave reheats leftover food,” the user commented. But the day completely collapsed. Afterwards, she heard her partner boasting to his gaming group, saying, “I have enough money to pay off my credit card, buddy!” A boys’ holiday is approaching!
It goes without saying that OP was unhappy.
She went straight up to him. He was euphoric from gaming, but she interrupted him by asking, “What money are we talking about?” His reply? “From your nan, babe,” he murmured, looking as if he had the most lost of clues.
Warning: Things did not go well. OP said, “Not today, Satan!” with a fervor. She said the money was off-limits for anything other than her own spending choices, which ironically excluded his friends’ ideal vacation.
This led to a full-fledged yelling match, during which the fiancé made a surprise appearance and declared, “We are getting married; you will become my financial burden.” I also own any money you take. You made me look bad in front of my pals! Oh, the chivalry.
OP did what every rational person would do when faced with her partner’s utter insolence: she left. Heading to her friend’s apartment, she wondered if she was in the wrong, but silence was louder than words.
Let the Reddit jury begin. The replies were incredibly cathartic:
He sees you as a financial burden and is making plans to spend YOUR money elsewhere while you are away. One person remarked, “If you marry him, you’re signing up for a lifetime subscription to ‘Regret Magazine.”
Is that true? Wed this guy? Is he really thinking he’s entitled to your money and planning a trip for the boys without consulting you? Another person commented, “Red flags have officially turned into fireworks.”
The grand finale is this: “Cease the wedding.” Never marry this man. Initially, he has outstanding credit card debt? And secondly, what’s yours is his, and what’s his is his? Third, the traditional telltale characteristics of a narcissist are entitlement and wrath. Not only was there money in your grandparents’ final gift to you, but he also revealed his actual nature. Hurry.
Now inhale deeply. How do you think? Should OP give up and leave? Inform us!
